The Blueprint for Growth: How Your First Seven Years Shape the Life You Build

What early experiences shaped the beliefs and connections that define who you are today?

"Watch your thoughts, they become your words, watch your words, they become your actions, watch your actions, they become your habits, watch your habits, they become your character, watch your character, it becomes your destiny."
– Lao Tzu

By the time you were seven, most of the beliefs guiding your life today were already locked in. Crazy, right?
Those early years are like wet cement—every experience, every interaction, every emotion leaves an imprint. Those patterns don’t just fade away. They show up in how you connect, how you argue, how you love.
But the good news? You can rewrite the script. You’re not stuck with the story you inherited.

Rewriting the Script

What if the only thing standing between you and the life you want is the story you keep telling yourself about the past? Think about that for a second. The regrets, the screw-ups, the “what-ifs” that play on repeat in your head—they’re like anchors, keeping you stuck when you could be soaring. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to carry that weight anymore. You can let it go.

Releasing the past isn’t about pretending it didn’t happen or erasing the memories. It’s about owning it—every messy, complicated part of it—and then deciding it doesn’t get to run the show anymore. It’s like clearing out a cluttered garage. You don’t toss everything, you keep the tools that still work and ditch the junk that’s just taking up space.

I learned this the hard way. A few years ago, I took a trip to California to catch up with an old friend. What I thought would be a casual getaway turned into a two-week deep dive into my own baggage. My friend introduced me to her mentor—someone who had this uncanny ability to help people untangle the knots of their past. I went in skeptical, but what I walked away with was utterly life-changing.

Through conversations, EMDR, spiritual practices (because, hey, it is California), quiet moments of reflection, and some brutally honest self-work, I’ve learned that the past isn’t something to fight against—it’s something to integrate. If you’re willing to do the work, to face the uncomfortable truths and let go of what’s holding you back, you’ll come out the other side stronger, lighter, and ready to take on whatever’s next. Transformation isn’t a destination—it’s a journey. And it starts right here, right now.

Understanding the Human Learning Process

The first seven years of life are like the foundation of a house—everything else gets built on top of it. And if that foundation is shaky, well, you can guess what happens when life throws a storm your way.

From the moment we take our first breath, we’re bombarded with stimuli—sounds, sights, smells—that shape how we see ourselves and the world. The brain is most moldable, most plastic, in those early years. It’s like wet cement, ready to be shaped.

The Foundation of Beliefs

By the time a child turns three, their brain is already 80% of its adult size, and by age five it’s 90%. And during the first seven years, the brain is firing on all cylinders, creating neural connections at a rate that’s almost impossible to comprehend.

This is when kids form their core beliefs. These aren’t just random thoughts, they’re the ideas that will shape how they navigate relationships, make decisions, and view the world. And while these beliefs can evolve over time, the roots run deep.

The Role of Sensory Input and Emotions

Kids don’t just learn through words or instructions—they learn through their senses. Every touch, every sound, every smell leaves an imprint. And these sensory experiences are tied to emotions, which makes them stick even deeper.

Parents, whether they realize it or not, are the first teachers. They’re the ones modeling how to interact with the world, how to handle emotions, and how to treat others. And let’s be real—kids are always watching. They pick up on everything, even the stuff you think they don’t notice.

The Role of Parents

Moms are often the first to show kids what it means to feel safe and cared for. They’re the ones who anticipate needs, who create that sense of trust that becomes the foundation for healthy relationships later on. Dads, on the other hand, often represent the outside world. They teach kids about love and relationships through their actions—or sometimes through their absence.

The Shift: From Sensory to Logic

By the time a child hits seven, their brain starts to shift from pure sensory learning to logical reasoning. This is when they begin to question things, to analyze, to piece together the puzzle of the world around them. But here’s the catch: all that subconscious programming from the early years? It doesn’t just disappear. It’s still there, running in the background, influencing decisions and behaviors in ways we don’t even realize.

Believing and Achieving

But, hey, you’re not just a product of your DNA or your upbringing. You’re a dynamic, ever-evolving human being, constantly shaping your reality through your choices. And while you’re out there creating your world, guess what? You’re also recreating yourself.

Your beliefs are the foundation of this process. They shape how you see the world, how you act, and—most importantly—how you connect with others. In relationships, beliefs can either keep two people deeply connected or slowly push them apart. That’s why I’m digging deep into the beliefs that are driving your (love) life.

Beliefs aren’t static. They’re rooted in your experiences, but they’re also sneaky. Once you form a belief, your brain starts cherry-picking evidence to confirm it. Think your partner doesn’t care? You’ll only notice the moments that back that up. It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. But the good news? You can rewrite those beliefs.

Why This Matters

Understanding how we learn—how our brains are shaped in those early years and how our beliefs are based upon that—isn’t just fascinating. It’s the key to unlocking real transformation. Because once you know where those beliefs and patterns come from, you can start to change where they’re taking you.

You’ve got the power to rewrite your story and create the life you’ve always wanted. But it starts with one step: awareness.

Are you ready to uncover the beliefs holding you back and replace them with ones that empower you?

Your story isn’t set in stone. It’s time to rewrite it—because the life you want is waiting on the other side of the beliefs holding you back. Start by identifying one belief that’s keeping you stuck and challenge it today.

Need help? Let’s connect—I’ll show you how to take that first step toward the life you deserve.