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Karen Blue's avatar

Andy, well said. Is the older we get the easier it is to live in that truth because we don't have a whole lot longer. We need to nurture those friendships we have and I am also learning at 81 to let go of a couple that no longer serve either of us. History doesn't seem to be enough. Thoughts?

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Andy Fenske's avatar

You’re so right, Blue. As we get older, clarity sharpens...and with it, what matters, what doesn’t. Letting go of friendships that no longer serve is tough, but it’s freeing too. It’s about making space for the connections that truly nourish us.

What are your biggest takeaway in learning to let go?

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Simply Sian's avatar

So true and clearly stated! We need more meaningful connections to counter the drip feed of othering that is being projected at the moment.

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Andy Fenske's avatar

You’re absolutely right, Sian. Meaningful connections are the antidote to all the noise and division out there. When we focus on building real relationships, it’s like we’re reclaiming the humanity that’s being chipped away. What is your first go-to step to fostering more of those connections?

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Simply Sian's avatar

I don’t know about first go to step but I agree with what you say about being present and along with the honest talk is active listening to spark meaningful conversation. Maybe making time or perhaps eye contact and a smile helps start it off. What about you?

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Andy Fenske's avatar

I love that, Sian. Those are the real building blocks of connection. For me, it’s about showing up with curiosity and making people feel heard and seen, both in work and play. Sometimes it’s as simple as asking a thoughtful question or genuinely acknowledging someone’s feelings.

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Kelly-Kim's avatar

Beautiful

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Andy Fenske's avatar

Thank you, Kelly-Kim, for seeing the beauty in this, this means a lot. What part of it resonated with you most?

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Sheri Handel's avatar

This resonated with me because I lack of connection is what ended my marriage as well. Sometimes the dissonance is in the meaning of connection, or to be more blunt, the meaning of marriage. I appreciate how you unpack these things. Coincidentally, my Notes this week are related to this very theme.

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Andy Fenske's avatar

Sheri, I appreciate you opening up about that. It's real, powerful and heartbreaking to hear how the lack of connection shaped your experience too. You’re absolutely right: sometimes the dissonance isn’t just in the connection itself, but in how we define the foundation it’s built on, like marriage. I’d love to read your Notes this week. Sounds like we’re circling the same themes, and I’m curious to see where your reflections take this.

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Simone Kornalijnslijper's avatar

This is so inspiring and needed Andy, thank you for writing and sharing such an important piece! The world needs more real connections, more people who are deeply connected with themselves so that they can be more, deeper and truly connected with others ❤️

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Andy Fenske's avatar

Simone, thank you for such kind words. You’re absolutely right: real connection starts with being deeply connected to ourselves. When we show up authentically, it creates space for others to do the same. So glad my words resonate.

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Simone Kornalijnslijper's avatar

They did resonate Andy, it is such an inspiring and important piece 🙏🏻❤️

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Andy Fenske's avatar

Once again, thank you so much for these words, Simone. More where they come from...:)

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